We Need To Be Reminded More Than We Need To Be Taught

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So I think one of the most difficult things that people have a hard time dealing with is the lag time between action and success, or action and results. Like you can do something for a while and not see results, and then it becomes very easy to lose enthusiasm, lose momentum. Or you get this urge or temptation to move into another path to do something else'cause you think it's not working right. And there's this quote and it goes, we need to be reminded more than we need to be taught. essentially what that means is it's less about learning new things consistently. But it's about being reminded of the things that we already know that we need to be doing so that we continue to do them. Because ultimately, like mastery in any area of life comes from consistency and none other, if you can just be consistent, you're going to outlast the competition eventually. That's the most difficult thing for anybody in anything, whether that's in business, whether that is in. Fitness, whether that is in relationships, in anything, the universal key to success in anything is consistency. And the most difficult part is showing up every single day if you don't see immediate results, Because as humans, we're conditioned to see things as very binary, meaning, okay, we do X, we get Y. And we should get it immediately, right? If I do this, I should get this. That's the way we're hardwired. And so if something takes time, right? And big things like big goals, take time. Nothing really worth trying to accomplish happens overnight, right? You have to build, that's like a human skill that you have to, train yourself to see. Because the bigger goals, the bigger things you want to accomplish don't just happen with a snap of a finger. So there's lots of reminders along the way. Like I see this and I realize this, with my clients, is that you don't need a plethora of information. You don't need to be overwhelmed with learning, and people can really easily go in a learning mode and maybe you can identify with this. You fall into the trap of learning more, wanting to learn more and more. I need another credential, I need another certification. I need something else that is going to give me some more knowledge than I could finally get to my goal. But the reality the best form of, knowledge is actually just doing right. And so I realized this with. My clients is, you gotta do the basic things right? You have to do the basic things over and over, and sometimes basics are boring. Sometimes fundamental things are boring, so it's easy to not want to do them. And so reminders to do them goes a long way. you're just repeating the basics over and over and over. And this is a hard lesson for a lot of people to learn. But once you get this down. You start to see the trickle down effect into the rest of your life? So I think about it, like I go back now, like 15 years or so. When I first started my business online, the Austin Academy, I didn't really know what I was doing but you just keep going, right? And figure things out as you go, and you never really know if what you're doing is correct. And you do it enough and you start to eventually realize through action what is right and what is wrong, and the temptation, like I, so I'm putting myself into, back into like my shoes when I first started because this is where a lot of people are probably listening to this. it's hard. To formulate a direction, it's hard to stick to something when you don't have the faith or certainty that the thing you're doing is correct. So instead of just doing the same thing over and over, expecting, results immediately or waiting for the results, I should say, there's a temptation to jump around, right? And like on today's internet, today's brains are hardwired, right? The temptation to jump is easier than ever because there's more and more options in front of you, and it gets more and more difficult to resist the urge to constantly switch if you aren't getting results in what you're doing immediately. And there can be a big lag time in things where, when I made my first million dollars online, I was doing things for such a long time. And I felt like they weren't working right, and I felt like things weren't working. for whatever reason, I felt like, it was off. Maybe I didn't have full faith or full certainty, of course, because I was just new and I was just starting. So I'm like I don't really have an alternative plan. I don't have a million things in front of me, so I'm just gonna keep going because I think the best path forward is just to keep going. Let me just keep doing what I'm doing'cause I don't really have a better alternative. But as you go through it, part of what you learn in this is that there are like little, and I used to just. Literally remind myself consistently, do these things every day. Like I had a list of things, like I didn't really know exactly what was important and what wasn't. So I had a Google doc at the time, or a notepad on my computer with just a list of things I need to do every day and let me just repeat them, right? Let me just repeat these things every day. Do'em in like just consistently do'em, right? So it was like a reminder to myself. To just do them. And part of what you learn is that, there's a delay between what you want and the doing to get the thing that you want. Like the doing to get the thing you want doesn't just make the thing appear the next day. And that's where a lot of people go wrong. It's like a garden, right? Or you're planting seeds in a garden. You can't expect. Fruit or vegetables the next day, you have to wait till the following season. And the beauty of it is that when you are doing things daily and you have these daily reminders to yourself to say, look, I'm gonna do this, and this. it may seem like it's not going anywhere, but there's magic that happens in repetition by doing the same thing every day, you inherently get better at it. And that's the tough thing I think for people to comprehend, to wrap their minds around, is that if you just do something every day, it's pretty hard to not get better at it, right? It's pretty hard to just stay bad for a long enough time. even if you aren't good at something, like for example, if you don't know how to write and you just commit to writing every single day, you're gonna get better at writing. Without a doubt. By just showing up and doing it every day, you will get better at writing. Like I, I was not a great writer. One of the things you have to learn when you're doing business online is you need to learn some form of copywriting. You just need to, it's, there's so many areas that applies that you need to know how to write. You need to know how to write ads. You need to know how to write emails. You need to know how to create, whatever that is. It's everywhere. So I remember there was a period in my life where I committed every single day Not anything to put out there on the internet, not anything related to my business. But every morning with my coffee, I used to make myself sit down at my computer and write 500 words. And I did that every day for 365 days straight. And I remember even after doing it for 30 days, you get comfortable. And then. You start to find a groove and then you do it more and more. And then even after one year of doing that, you have proficiency, right? You don't have total proficiency, but one thing is for sure you're better than most if you do something every day for a year and it's if you listen to the previous podcast of compounding, right? The compounding effects of getting just a little bit better. Every single day. And you can take that and you can apply it. And actually for me, it was great to learn how to write, but actually what was really eye-opening in the process was understanding that I can truly get better at something if I commit to doing it every day. it's very easy to spend energy looking for other solutions or, doing something for a little bit and deciding it doesn't work Then just sticking to the thing you're doing to see it out. Take nutrition for example. If you're trying to lose weight and get in shape and you follow a diet, you can't follow some diet for maybe four days or five days and then make a sweeping decision about whether or not it works. But a lot of people do that where they do it for a few days and they say, look, I didn't lose any weight, so this diet doesn't work, so now I'm gonna go try another diet. I tried a low carb diet for five days. Didn't lose any weight. I just feel like I have a headache and I'm sleepy and I have no energy. That's what people do. So then they jump and they say I'm gonna do something else. I'll go try the Mediterranean diet, or I'll go try something else. And then you jump around so much that you don't let the thing that you're doing work itself out Start to work its magic on you. And at the same time, the more you do it, the better you get at it. If you're doing, if you're doing say, like a low carb diet or a keto diet or something like that to lose weight, like everyone knows if you've done this, when you cut carbs outta your diet, you don't feel very good for a while. They call it the keto flu or the carb flu. You feel sick, you feel nauseous. You get a headache. That's your body. Switching gears, so to speak, right? It's like that's the process of your body going from burning carbs and sugar for energy to learning how to burn fat for energy. So there's a process, right? And it takes time. It's like your metabolism is switching over and you're now giving it a different optimal fuel source. So of course, in a couple days, you're not gonna reap all the benefits from it. You're gonna have to just. Keep doing it to stick with it. Most people don't, right? They get hung up on that. They get hung up on the carb flu or the keto flu, and then they stop, right? And they move on to something else. They say it's not for me. You didn't even give it a chance to work. So that application applies to everything. You can read about it all you want. You can read about the diet, you can do the diet, but actually what's more effective? Is literally simple reminders daily to tell yourself, okay, you know what? I'm learning low carb. I'm not used to doing it. So no rice, right? No rice, no pasta, no sugar, no soda, whatever that is. You're used to drinking or eating as, as simple as that sounds. Those basic reminders go a long way. Just a reminder that don't drink the soda, it has sugar in it, right? And by executing. Those things and having those reminders to yourself every day, that's what helps you push through that rough patch, like the lag between the thing you want and the thing you're doing currently. It kind of bridges that gap and it's those reminders, it's like those reminders daily, actually, those reminders are more effective. And that's where people mess up is they don't realize that only through action can you really learn something. And there's no better way to take great action every day through simple reminders, right? Like anything that's hard for you to do or anything that's difficult is creating simple reminders to do it consistently or do it with some kind of regularity. It goes a long way in helping you learn and become proficient in the thing that you're doing. Like whether that's weight loss, whether that is business, whether that's relationships, I can't be consistent with them. So I'll show up maybe for a couple of days and then I'll take three weeks off and then, maybe I'll text them again and see what they're up to. It's not gonna go very well. And that's true with anything. the simplest path to victory in anything is to just be consistent. As simple as it sounds, as silly as it sounds like that's the secret, is just be consistent. If you're just consistent with things, you'll get better at them. there's no question about that. You'll get better at them, you'll get more proficient, you'll feel more comfortable. And by default, all of those things lead to eventual mastery of the thing you're trying to do. Imagine if You go to the gym, for the first time, it's really hard. you don't know how to use the machines. You don't know how to use the weights. You're not comfortable. You might feel like everybody's judging you because you don't know what you're doing, right? So you go a couple times and it's really hard. And it just feels uncomfortable. And that's right there. That point where people get uncomfortable is when they stop, right? I feel uncomfortable. It's not natural, so it's not for me, so I'm not gonna do it. Instead of just pushing through try it, right? Go to the gym, try it for a month, and you'll be amazed, right? You'll be amazed at how different you feel after just a month and how much more proficient you get. Just go do it. You don't need to switch paths. You don't need to go try something else. You don't need to research more. Just go do it. Just don't be afraid to. Try something, be bad at it for a little bit and instead of framing it is I'm bad at something. Frame it as I'm learning something. And instead of passive learning of opening up a book or watching another YouTube video on something, look at it as active learning, right? Active learning is doing and doing is what leads to mastery of the thing. So and the more you can get into that, you can have that head space, the better off you're gonna be. So I sell programs in the fitness niche. I have a program, it's called Body Breakthrough. We train the core and we help people. Ultimately train their cores, overcome back pain, and then learn how to do handstands and press handstands and like fancy stuff with their bodies. I work with a lot of yoga practitioners and anybody who's interested in that. There's a lag when you see like any kind of advanced, like calisthenic movements. If you don't know what it is, look up what a press handstand is. You can't just roll outta bed and do it. There's a lag, right? When you're training your core, there's a lag. When you are building muscle, there's a lag. There's a lag to everything, right? there is an uncomfortable period at the beginning. In fact, anything you do that you're new to, there's an uncomfortable feeling at the beginning that will, knock most people out. That's the difference between winners and losers. That's the difference between those who succeed and those who don't is they can push past that uncomfortable part at the beginning. Even though it doesn't feel natural, it doesn't feel normal, it feels out of your element. It doesn't feel like it's part of your identity. You still push past it. That's what separates people. It's can you go through the fire of feeling uncomfortable and be consistent? be consistent at being uncomfortable until the thing you're doing becomes easier and easier. Like they say, it takes 21 days to form a new habit, and that's probably true in that anything that you do today that feels awkward, weird or uncomfortable, or doesn't feel like it's quote unquote, you do it for 21 days and it will feel better. try starting a business. if you've never started a business before, it's like you don't just magically learn business skills, like they don't teach you those things in school. You don't just pick them up. You don't just automatically learn and know everything. You start and you don't know anything, and you feel overwhelmed and you feel like it's impossible. It's like a mountain that's impossible to climb up. So you can push past it. And if you can approach it from the mentality of, there's lag in doing and succeeding and the immediate doing doesn't lead to the thing that you want, but you have to do it consistently. You realize well. The things that I need to do today are hard, and the things that I need to do, next week are equally as uncomfortable, and it's not gonna be easy right away. A little mental hack is just, remind yourself, Just simple reminders to yourself. I truly believe that people, need to be reminded more than they need to be taught. The more you have those reminders from anywhere, right? Whether it's a friend, a family member, a coach, an app on your phone that reminds you to do something every day. Like one simple reminder is what could be the thing that pushes you. Towards taking action daily. And if you can take action daily, then all of a sudden you're building the repetition and you're building the habits of consistency. And consistency is the entire, that's the base layer of success. Consistency. If you just don't do something, you're not gonna succeed. That's for sure. the uphill battle is actually training yourself to say I gotta do it right. I need to, I actually need to. Do this daily and build the habit of consistency because without consistency, you don't have mastery. And once you understand that by simply showing up every single day to do something. You'll get better at it and you'll win. But you have to accept the fact that it's uncomfortable at the beginning. You have to accept the fact that it's gonna feel really weird. You're not gonna know very much. You're gonna be like on the very bottom of the totem pole at whatever it is you're doing, but you have to embrace that as a learning experience, and move through that fire and just embrace feeling uncomfortable. Embrace the feeling of not knowing, of being bad at it, and it's okay. release yourself from the mindset of I'm bad at something so I'm not gonna do it. It's no, the more things you do that you're bad at, the more of an opportunity you have to improve at them. And if you can just see that, like most of the world stops when it's hard. Most of the world just packs it in when things get hard or they don't know, or it feels like it's too much or they're overwhelmed. But if you can just go past that and keep working, then you're gonna come out the other side. And when you come out of the other side, what you may or may not realize is that you're now ahead of 95% of people, because most people on the planet are conditioned to stop. So the first step to success. Is not to master the thing you're trying to do, it's just to master consistency around it. If you master the consistency around it, the thing you want comes naturally, but it doesn't come right away. So that's where the whole consistency element comes in, is you do it enough and by default you get a little bit better every day. And the cumulative effect of doing something every day is what leads you to mastery. And eventually you get there, but you have to accept the fact that it's not gonna happen right away. But you can make huge progress if you just stick with it. there's another quote. It goes something like this. it's like we overestimate what we can do in a day and underestimate what we can accomplish in a year, right? And same thing, just be consistent, right? Don't have these huge expectations to make monumental changes in a day. You're not gonna build the next Amazon in a day. Even if you work 24 hours, you're not going to instantly lose a hundred pounds in a day. Even if you spend all day in the gym, like it's impossible for these things, but things take time. They have to marinate a little bit. And so in order to maximize that or capitalize on that, you gotta be consistent, right? And in order to be consistent, if you struggle, just reminders, right? Really simple reminders to go do the things you need to do. And then before you know it, you realize you are there at your goal. So I'm gonna wrap it up there with that episode. You can take some time to leave a review and if you know someone who could benefit from it, share it with them, All right, that's all I got. Talk to you guys later.